5 Thoughts on Forgiveness

Have you been wronged? Are you struggling to forgive? Are you afraid to ask for forgiveness? These 5 thoughts on forgiveness may help you.

1. Lower your expectations.

  • Because of our sin and the sin of others, hurt is inevitable.
  • So don’t be shocked the next time you are wronged.
  • Jesus said He would be “hated without cause”. He didn’t say that about us. He did say, however, that we would be hated because we are on his team (Matt 10:22).

2. Rather than fixing your eyes on the wrong you are suffering, instead fix them on Jesus, the one who has forgiven you.

  • Forgiveness is possible because we were first forgiven by God (Eph 4:32 “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.”).

3. Don’t live by the motto “I will forgive you but I won’t ever forget.”

  • Do you know what you’re essentially saying when you say this? I forgive you, but not really.
  • Besides, that’s not what the gospel says to us. It gives us golden nuggets such as this: “I will remember their sins no more.” (Heb 10:17).

4. Forgiveness is possible but it’s not automatic.

  • 1 Pe 4:8 says that “love covers a multitude of sins.”
  • This opens the door for the possibility for forgiveness to happen in any situation, no matter how evil, vile, or wicked.
  • Paul says to the church in Rome, “If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.” (Rom 12:18).
  • Again, anticipate that forgiveness can happen, but don’t be shocked if it doesn’t.

5. Forgiveness can be extended to anyone.

  • The scenario where my forgiveness would be tested the most is if someone hurt/killed my wife or kids.
  • If I’m going to be honest, I don’t think I could forgive.
  • Thankfully, there is grace for me still. Rom 5:8 says “but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”
  • What this is saying is that while I (and all of you) were (are) blatantly rejecting God, He still continued to pursue us, by dying for us. We wronged him in the worst of ways, yet He still died for us because He loved us.
  • So even though I probably don’t have the capacity to forgive the person that hurt my family (if that were the case), there is someone who does. And I’m on His team.

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